I'm not easily offended. And I am not going to beat a topic that's been had by every talk show, blog, or YouTube video? However I interrupt this style/beauty blog for a word from the writer.
As a Black woman living in Atlanta I see it all. The shows that are on from Love and Hip Hop to The Real Housewives (shows that I will admit I DVR and watch weekly) depict a certain climate about women. That we are loud, violent, and petty.
Can we have a true solidarity? Can we get together and have a good time without arguments ensuing, absolutely. Can we support each others endeavors, yes ma'am! Can we be nice to one another but remain assertive to the boundaries we set for ourselves, of course!
I feel as though the community of women I entertain, whether it be a friend from wayyy back or a new blogger associate turned friend, have love for one another. We help and support each other. We laugh and learn together. My closest girlfriends are my sisters and we lean, cry, and love on each other. I've never felt blatent disrespect from a person I call friend. Am I just blessed in that aspect?
Even at our local events that are full of all kinds of women (even if majority black) there is never any major blowouts or arguing. I've never seen a read or someone pulling coat tails because there is a time and a place and ladies know how to contain their issues or deal with them appropriately. Am I just blind or "where they do dat at"?
Met a lovely fellow blogger at Atlanta's Lil 5 Points while I was out shopping! G writes What's More Important Than Fashion and she was super nice!! I've been following her blog for a while so I immediately recognized her face, and she recognized me tot, teehee! We immediately chatted and took a photo together. No shade, so genuine.
Ol School from HS or younger Best Babes and Sisters.
I have way too many photos to post here. You'd be scrolling down this page all day if I put up all the pics I have or mentions of me and any of my old and new babes. All I know is I love black women. How do you feel about your inner and outer circles????
LOVE THIS!!!
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Well said and illustrated!
ReplyDeleteSo I have personally boycotted watching any of those shows you mentioned. Simply because of this, I just hate that it makes us look like we can't get along. Then you have those who swear up and down, they can't be friends with other women. Those are people who are red flags to me. I love my girls. I don't really break it down by color, but I 100% love my black friends. I've meet some great people and they have actually changed my view on how I deal with women friends. For the best though. When i first met some of them, I was catty, I was fickle, and I def didn't trust anybody. As i got to know them, and started noticing my own behaviors I let go of old baggage when dealing with female friends and I was able to make really good friends. One of them being Jennifer from Comme Coco, with that, I've also opened to supporting a ton of other bloggers, espeically women of color. And that pic of Shahidah i laughed because i know her too, and i was like, this can't be the same one in DC and low and behold i scroll and it's her. She is the sweetest!! Love her so much!
ReplyDeleteI absolutely love this. I have had my inner circle since college and I don't know what I would do without these girls. And it's true we don't go to social functions and have complete blowouts. Instead we support each others success, failures, and silly decisions. They are a truly awesome group of women.
ReplyDeleteI am thankful, like you Jaz, that I have some great friends and associates that are black women. I personally never subscribed to that, "Women (of any races) can't get along mumbo jumbo!" I think women who believe that, are the source of the problem. If you don't have any good girlfriends, and can't get along with women, it's probably you and not them. *drops mic* Great post, my dear.
ReplyDeleteI have some awesome friends and so happy to have met you as well! I think ratchet just attracts ratchet. We don't know these girls because we would have ditched them when they started acting crazy! Aint no body got time for that!
ReplyDeleteWell said! Like you, I'm blessed to have a wonderful circle of true friends. We tell each other the truth, support and uplift each other, have fun together, and never once have we gotten into a fist fight in a restaurant, lol. (I always wonder where casting directors find not one, but multiple grown women who are willing to fight each other like that.) Sometimes friendships need to be truthfully redefined and edited: for ex, maybe a person is a shopping buddy, an acquaintance, or a coworker, but not a real friend.
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